Why do I hate conflict?
It scares me.
It threatens me.
It wastes my time.
It tempts me to prove myself.
It reminds my that I am a sinner.
It reminds me that my friends are sinners.
It reminds me that I must love my enemies...and my enemy is anyone who is hard to love.
Conflict is the tunnel through which love is shared between two sinners.
Jesus is the only person in all of creation who can guide us through the tunnel of conflict.
Jesus carved the tunnel at the cross and broke through the other side three days later.
We must follow him through the way of the cross.